What makes a good party? Is it the food? The conversation? The interaction of the guests? Of course all of these things play a vital role in the success of a party but the stress level of the hostess ranks as THE key element. When the stress level of the host/hostess is high, guests can sense it. When the stress level is low (and the hostess is mingling, laughing and having a good time with her guests, the guests feel welcome, happy) the fun begins.
I have thrown many, many parties and learned early on that when I was organized, had taken the time to create a great checklist and timeline for the party, everyone had a much better time. I once threw a party where I didn't take the time to really read the main dish recipe, started too late on setting the table and was racing the clock to get ready and clean the house. I ended up spending more time in the kitchen cooking, and was so stressed to clean, set the table, etc. that I wasn't really ready when guests arrived. I was stressed, slightly grumpy and I knew my guests could feel my angst. The night ended up okay, but I didn't have any fun. I vowed I wouldn't let myself get behind the eight ball and from then on, I would be ORGANIZED for each and every party.
I have thrown many, many parties and learned early on that when I was organized, had taken the time to create a great checklist and timeline for the party, everyone had a much better time. I once threw a party where I didn't take the time to really read the main dish recipe, started too late on setting the table and was racing the clock to get ready and clean the house. I ended up spending more time in the kitchen cooking, and was so stressed to clean, set the table, etc. that I wasn't really ready when guests arrived. I was stressed, slightly grumpy and I knew my guests could feel my angst. The night ended up okay, but I didn't have any fun. I vowed I wouldn't let myself get behind the eight ball and from then on, I would be ORGANIZED for each and every party.
As a result I created the following check list and food prep list. The timeline is what makes all the difference in the world, especially the "day of" timeline. Working backwards from when your guests arrive, you write in the times things need to start in order to be done on time. This especially helps my husband, who instead of saying to me when I am in the middle of something, "What next?", he can reference the timeline and check it off. Below is a link where you can download a PDF of my timeline and checklist. I promise it will make entertaining so much more fun...for you and your guests.
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I'm so glad someone has validated my need to have checklists for parties. I have one for things before the party, my guestlist (streamlines thank you cards) and my to-do list during the party. It's seems a little overboard to others, but I need the structure. www.dawnypoo.blogspot.com
Posted by: Dawn | August 19, 2008 at 04:17 PM
Great post!! This is also something I am on the way to overcome...and making a list always helps me! I think that if more people could get it together, more people would actually entertain! Thanks! Your blog is great!
Posted by: Marcie | August 19, 2008 at 07:53 PM